BEST AFTERNOON
Good afternoon? Best afternoon.
13 May 2012
This must be the place.
I flew back from North Carolina this morning.
It wasn't easy.
I fell asleep on the planes, ate a cheeseburger in Dallas - the lone solace of sad airline travel, my ability to forgive myself for devouring terrible fast food. I read a book borrowed from my beloved's shelf, and I don't say beloved lightly, because he is the lone source of sunshine, perpetual and actual, in the trans-state mess that seems to be my life right now.
This sounds like a Xanga post, I know.
I was supposed to graduate on Saturday. I've seen pictures on Facebook of my peers, all capped and gowned, and I'm not with them. I'm here, in my parents' house, a bottle deep in wine, typing in a white box.
I tried not to think about it, but I still do. I still do. I will, for a while.
But there was some glory in my visit to North Carolina. I finally bedded the beast of my old DUI, stood meek and scared in front of a judge in my nice interview clothes and had my sentence doled out. I went and ate oysters afterwards. I sat at a table on the sidewalk and enjoyed the Front Street Brewery's Black and Razz--half raspberry wheat beer, half oatmeal stout--and read my book and smoked my cigarettes. And I was with Dean, and we spent a lazy, cloistered Saturday in his apartment brewing beer and drawing comics and playing Rock Band and dancing and baking bread, and it was only sad when I was piping Bon Iver through the speakers.
But.
All in all, it was an ugly, angry reminder of everything I've done wrong. I'm not hooded with the colors of my graduate school. I sent a plea on a social network and met silence, and I'm used to that, but it still stings.
In short, I have no idea what I'm doing, and I exhaust myself with would'ves, could've, should'ves.
And I torture myself when no one else will. I make my boyfriend into people he isn't, then realize that portrait is unbelievable; he is not a black cowboy with a PhD and chef skills and a hefty inheritance. He isn't, because no one is.
What he is is a boy who takes me to the Battleship North Carolina Dock Diving event solely so I can pet all possible dogs. What he is is someone who pays for our fancy sushi meal and doesn't mind when I fall asleep on his chest while we watch The Hunger Games. What he is is more and less than I could ever imagine, but none of that matters because he is real.
I scrawl in my notebook on the plane and catch the wife in the seat next to me eyeballing, and I want to tell her, yes, this is what I do, but no one wants it. I want to ask her sunburned husband where they've been, and how was it, and were they really, actually happy, or was it a vacation just to get away from themselves and the lives they've made. Do they regret it? Do they fantasize about elsewheres, and hows, and whos?
Because it's scary, to be so simply content. To sit at the counter and doodle while Dean brews beer. To walk around the old cemetery and peer at the names and think about ghosts, then find the trellis walkway where his brother was married and kiss while the swans swim in the lake. To find a conch, a full, total conch shell buried in the sand and carry it back, leave it on his desk, a testament to one stunning afternoon of sun and sand and pelicans, beer and oaks, movies, love.
I was in my workout clothes, having danced like a fool in his living room, reeking of cigarettes and my face unmade, and he said, "This is what our future will be." We said a lot of goofy shit in the meantime, ridiculous jokes, imaginary personalities, but that phrase sticks to my heart and makes me hopeful.
I'm back in Oklahoma. I'm in my parents' house, 25, the day after I should've graduated. I'm a bottle deep and terrified when I stop to consider it all.
But I'm hopeful. And that, kids and friends and readers, is love. That's actual. That's true. That's wild and foolish and crazed and great, and it's good, and it's real, and it's mine.
17 April 2012
Why We Should All Be More Like Dogs.
06 April 2012
Bumblebees.
31 March 2012
Okay Things
20 March 2012
Salutations
Here are twenty things you should know about Rachel, the person who wrote the words you are now reading.
1. I am a short story writer. I'm 5'3 on a good day.
2. I am a heavy drinker, but not as heavy as I used to be, as I lost 50 pounds at one point.
3. My best friends are Karlena Janelle Riggs, who is a real person, and Pinto James Bean, who is a dog.
4. I mis-typed "dog" as "god" in number 3 and that might be accurate, as Pinto is the best entity in existence and should you choose to read this blog, he will be oft-mentioned.
5. This blog is a lie. A nice one, but still a lie. There are the things you write to yourself - on your arm, a reminder to buy milk, to listen to more Radiohead, to update this or that - and the things you write to yourself - in a journal, secretly, in the quiet of night. I don't do much of the latter anymore and sometimes I think I should and I shouldn't rekindle that old habit. There are also the things you write in letters, to specific people, things you tell them and no one else, and there are the quips you post on Twitter (@pintojamesbean) or facebook, and there are the things you know but never tell. And a blog? Blog is an awful word, firstly. Secondly, it's an outward, shined up glorious presentation of your life that might not be authentic.
6. That being said; every day is an adventure.
7. I love dogs.
8. I am 25 years old, living at home in Oklahoma, currently in my room where I've strung up my damp panties on a makeshift clothesline because our dryer is broken.
9. If you read "damp panties" in a dirty way I forgive you.
10. I hope to give you a new fresh jam with each post, because I used to work in college radio and it was wondrous, and then I worked in real radio and it wasn't so much. Right now it's Florence and the Machine's "Shake It Out," and you should read these words like a poem with very dramatic breaks: "I am done with my graceless heart/so tonight I'm going to cut it out and let it restart...so here's to drinks in the dark at the end of my rope/and I'm ready to suffer and I'm ready to hope/it's a shot in the dark/and right at my throat." You wish you wrote that, and so do I.
11. I currently work at a liquor store, so part of my job is drinking. Really. It is.
12. I got published once or twice.
13. I'm not entirely sure if getting published was the best or worst thing that ever happened to me.
14. A lot of things have happened to me, and almost all of them were all right.
15. I hilarify myself on a daily basis and once was described as such.
16. I went to a very fancy college and therefore have a lot of fancy debt but it's not so bad.
17. I have recently lost the ability to worry.
18. I really love dogs.
19. I also love words, and the postal system, and internet connectivity, and rainy days, and my boyfriend, and my hair.
20. I hope you enjoy this blog (whenever I say "blog" I just think about vomiting because that's kind of the noise you make) and I hope I do too.
America!